Overcoming Masturbation

OVERCOMING MASTURBATION

But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away by his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished bringeth forth death. James 1:14,15

In overcoming masturbation, we will need a little understanding on the synthesis of character.

And be not conformed to the pattern of this world: but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God. Rom.12:2

The whole issue of masturbation has it's root from within.

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Prov. 4:24

The Character Synthesis

Every act comes first as a thought of choice, if the thought is given heed to; it induces a desire that prompts the act. Repeated acts forms a habit and continual habits builds character. Your character influences your lifestyle and your lifestyle would determine your destiny; your final destination is either eternal death or eternal life.

Masturbation springs from the fulfillment of the desire for sexual pleasure through self stimulation. Repeated acts of self-stimulation forms the habit of masturbation. In overcoming masturbation, the key thing is to deal with the root of the problem i.e. dealing with what induces the very desire.

For the evil character chain; habits tends to control those that have it.

Evil Characters has three stages

1.       The formative stage: at this time, you consciously carry out the act, the whole act process results majorly from your willful decision to carry out the act. This is when the habit is formed

2.       The spontaneous stage: this is when the formed habit is mastered and you don't find difficulty in doing the act; it's becoming part of you.

3.       The dominating stage: this is when the habit tends to take over you, overpowering your will as if it is fighting with you, defeating you most times and living you helpless.

1.       Make a conscious and firm decision to stop and write down the time and date your took that decision.

2.       Ask your self these questions and sincerely answer them; there will give you a clue to the whole issue.

1.       What made me to engage in the act, for the very first time?

2.       Why am I still doing it?

3.       How do I see the act; is it right or wrong?

4.       Do I have a measure of control over the act?

5.       Is there an urge to perform the act?

6.       Does the urge overwhelm me?

7.       How frequent do I engage in the act?

8.       Do I really what to stop?

9.       Why do I want to stop?

10.   Can I tell someone?

11.   What has been the advantages to me?

12.   What has been the disadvantages to me?

13.   Does my association influence this act?

14.   What usually happens prior to the act?

15.   How are my emotions before I carry out the act?

16.   What happens immediately after the act?

3.       Having answered this questions, evaluate your answers

4.       From your answers, make out ways to change that habit.

THE WORD THERAPY

If you are not born- again, the above steps would provide a terminal or temporary relief;  as you are still of sin and death, in the kingdom of darkness and thereby under the dominion of Satan. When you are born-again, you are delivered from the dominion of Satan who is of darkness, sin no longer has dominion over you. You are now born of the word and of the Spirit and function under grace in the glorious liberty of the saints in light.

You first and foremost have to acknowledge that it is not right and it is a sin unto God, against your body. Confess to God and ask for his forgiveness

Be assured, that God has forgiven you, cleansed you and does not hold it against you.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

Masturbation is overcome from within, because that is where it starts from. The word of God has the best solution to this problem.

The word of God, has a cleansing and sanctifying ability.

Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken to you. John 15:3

Sanctify them through thy truth, thy word is truth. John 17:17

Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. Psalms 119:9

How does the word cleanse and sanctify from masturbation? It gives you divine power over your thoughts, it changes how you think and thus changes you. By constantly having fellowship with God, in the word and in prayer effectively can deal with this problem.

For the word is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. Heb.4:12

1.       (a). Memorize

(b). Meditate

(c). Confess

1.       Memorize at least nine(9) of these scriptures every morning

1.       James 4:7

2.       1 John 5:4

3.       1 Peter 1:23

4.       1 Peter 2:9

5.       Romans 6:14

6.       Romans 8:1-2

7.       1 Cor. 6:19-20

8.       Colossians 2:15

9.       Colossians 1:13

10.   Ephesians 1:7

11.   1 Peter 5:8-9

12.   Revelations 1:6

13.   Revelations 12:11

14.   Hebrews 4:12

15.   Psalms 119:9

16.   Proverbs 4:24

17.   Luke 10:19

18.   1 Timothy 1:7

19.   Romans 10:1-2

20.   Galatians 5:24

21.   2 Corinthians 5:17

22.   John 1:5

23.   2 Corinthians 7:1

2.        Meditate: Take time to ponder, consider, examine and digest the above scriptures (Ps.1:1-2, 119:11, Joshua 1:8)

3.       Confess: Speak out at least five of these scriptures as often as possible and at anytime the desire arises in you; declare your victory in Christ over sin and death

2.       READ AND STUDY THE FOLLOWING SCRIPTURES AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE BUT NOT LESS THAN THRICE A WEEK.

1.       Psalm 119

2.       John 15

3.       Romans 6-8

4.       1 Corinthians 6

5.       Galatians 5

6.       Ephesians 6

7.       Colossians 3

3.       CONFESS TO ONE ANOTHER

Confess your faults [that problem of masturbation] to one another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. James 5:16

It is necessary you tell someone

Your ability to confess to someone makes it easier when dealing with this habit.

The person, who the issue is confess to should pray with you concerning it; that you will be healed.

Don’t tell everyone or just anyone, but those who are responsible and serious-minded, like your parents if they are good believers, you Spiritual leader or a Christian Counselor. Someone who would not hurt or oppress you with what you tell them.