Be quick to forgive, but don’t be quick to take decisions and make conclusions when dealing with issues of contention, bitterness, hurt, anger, hate e.t.c Don’t be quick to make decisions and conclusions when under negative emotions, come out of negative emotion before you take any decision because your decisions and conclusion will be clouded and wrongly influenced when acting under such negative moods. Just as we are advise to avoid taking actions when angry so are we advised to avoid taking actions when under a heightened or dull emotional state, take decisions when normalcy has returned and you are at your default state.
Be also quick to forget, forgive like a child, in forgetting the hurts, you refuse to make reference to the hurt in your mind (reasoning) and in your statements, you refuse to allow that hurt though it had been forgiven to be as a guide in making preceding decisions as regards that hurt. Because of the previous hurt which had been forgiven and forgotten, we develop resilience and enough sense and maturity to deal with and handle similar or even greater magnitude of hurt.
Quickness in forgiving and forgetting reduces the impact of the hurt and improves your emotional rigidity and places us in the highest position which is of love, and love is greater than knowledge. In forgetting, it is not that the event is lost in the faculty of the memory, but a conscious decision is taking not to make reference to it when making decisions: we refuse to be influenced by that hurt, if the hurt was intentionally inflicted, the ones who did so would come in contact with your superior energy of love. This is not easy as it seems, because our natural tendencies are just opposite to this, but for those who are born again, they have the nature of God; which is the nature of Love for God is Love. And this love is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who is in you. In finding difficulty to forgive and forget, first we ask for the help of the Holy Spirit, you try to recall and meditate/ponder on what the word of God says about love and forgiveness, as ponder on it; begin also to confess it; because power is released from your spirit; your inner man and it finds expression in your life because your spirit becomes dominant over your flesh that is responsible for those feelings and wrong tendencies.